Some Pax think uber/lyft is some sort of hook up thing

, of course! I’m just using logic to back up my perception, while you’re out here accusing women of asking for it without anything to back it up. Salty much? :roll_eyes:

don’t feed the misogynist troll :wink: He’s just trying to get attention and hoping someone is dumb enough to bite.

no one accused anybody of anything except you who are attacking me because of a simple comment. You do not know any of the players and you automatically assumed something you never witnessed. Your very naive which is sweet but you might want to keep your eyes open. I find it hard to believe that every guy she gives a ride to makes a pass at her. That’s rather ironic. I’m a realist and I don’t live in fantasy land.

it’s not ok to make people feel uncomfortable. it goes both ways, If a sexy girl gets in my car, am I allowed to make her feel uncomfortable? no! no matter what she or he is wearing it’s not cool. I’ve also been hit on by women, trying to climb up the front seat and try to make out with me. chicks try to touch my hair sometimes, is that ok? no! maybe if they asked first!

I am not always a troll just on stupid posts. I do not hit on women and when they hit on me I say thanks but I am happily married man and have been with my wife for 10 years a lot of time the continue about how I should sign off and drink with them. So it’s stupid seeing a post condemning men that we all make girls feel uncomfortable and blah blah blah. I always double check the address when any rider gets in the vehicle and if I can’t say the street name I will ask them where are we headed. I have had drunk girls try to hold my hand while I am driving, had a couple try to rub my leg even had a few sitting behind me playing with my hair. But like a adult I tell them I am married and continue on my way and not post on Social Media trying to condemn all females

We are not on social media trying to “condemn all men”. That’s an exaggeration and you know it. We are condemning some men’s behavior.

We also condemn women who go to far in their advances. Very much!

The difference here though is 1 in 4 women who get into your car as a passenger, if they are college age or older, they have ALREADY been sexually assaulted by a man at some point in their life. Gentle flirting is generally ok at a bar, a restaurant, in a public space…but alone, when she’s trapped in a car with you (or anyone else) is absolutely wrong. Further, the difference between you getting hit on and her… You rarely fear for your physical safety. WE as women in this society, fear for it in small ways every single day. And that’s what makes this different.

If you want to shrug off women’s feelings, make jokes about their fears, downplay the severity of what can happen to women on either side of the ride-share spectrum… Then maybe you should reexamine your beliefs about all this.

Why’s it so difficult for you to say, huh, interesting. I never thought of it that way. Good to know ladies!

Instead you want to demean, and make insignificant our feelings. That says A LOT about you, not us.

it is definitely not ok, it is a damn felony!

However, are you continuing to drive despite the BS pushed upon you by passengers? If someone doing that to you last night does not make you rethink this, what will? Being raped? Beat the hell out of? Killed?

But instead, you will fire up the app(s), and continue knowing you were just sexually assaulted and asking for more abuse without ever asking for it. :frowning:

:woman_shrugging: I wasn’t attacking you, just rejecting your assertion that women who get hit in all the time must be putting out a “vibe,” using logic and examples to back it up. If I were attacking you I’d say anyone who thinks that is stupid and must be unattractive because they don’t know what it’s like to constantly get hit on.

it’s this generation that is more aware and actually know what consent is, also it helps that we live in the Bay. Anyone that spouts the “not all men” rhetoric is probably a misogynist at their very core.

the problem I have with what you just said is this…if I was a woman and someone attempted to expose themselves to me, that person would be arrested…that is against the law as far as any type of touching, that is also an arresting offense, but that one is up to you…but exposing themselves, no way…if you allow that to go without any repercussions, what do you think happens next time ??

This is my advice. However you can do what you want to do. Stop responding to that question when the passenger ask you about your safety.

I’ve learned a lot since I started driving almost 2 years ago. To NOT answer any seemingly inoccent but personal questions.

I just say I’m fine. Then redirect the conversation. Ask if the temperature is okay or anything and shut up.

Assume that all questions especially personal , are meant to feel you out and assess if you are an easy target.

Hell I don’t even tell the truth when someone ask how long have I been driving for the day. Everyone gets the same answer… I’ve just started. I’m just saying. Don’t be answering those passenger questions. You going to learn

This has happened to me on several occassions. One of them added me on fb and pmed me. And another wanted me to go to his hotel with him. I just ignore them and 1 star them

As a female driver, the shit that I hear or been told, u have no idea the stupidity that comes out of a guys mouth, thinking that it’s cute, flattering or a compliment!!! NO BITCH, we don’t want to hear it!!! :flushed:

Do you have a dashcam?i have found that people are much better acting when they realize they’re being recorded. I have a sign on my doors
No Smoking
No Eating
No Drinking
Dashcam In Use

I am simply a driver and I give no impression to anyone that they should touch me or act or talk innapropriatly there is absolutely no excuse for actions like that" point blank" if it’s male or female there is no excuse but these actions have only been by men so I do a agree 100% with Sharon juola and with all the others whom see where I’m coming from and thank you for the support in understanding. I usually don’t post stuff like this but I just thought I would this time considering this is just an almost every time I work type thing and knowing this yes I continue to keep doing my job and obviously there could be risks .We can only have that hope that all of us will be ok and safe out there always.

don’t let these guys fool you… You have a right to your feelings! Your fears and frustrations are valid. And you deserve to have a safe place to vent them… Here, to other drivers.

I’m sorry some boys in this post are too caught up in their own toxic masculinity that they can’t hear you or see you… But I do. And your voice matters, always!

if someone tries to touch you or speaks to you in a way that is unacceptable, you should keep calm as possible and cancel/drop them off at the nearest safe location, ie: police station, gas station, somewhere that has lighting and several people…also the incident should be reported to, at a minimum Uber, and depending on the severity, the police if warranted .

This job must be a hella confidence boost for the ladies. There’s not a female driver that won’t get hit on at night.

NO it’s NOT a “confidence booster”, it’s frightening. No one should EVER have to put up with it. We are out here working, trying to pay our bills, and get ahead.
I’m old, and I get my share of idiots. Don’t touch me, don’t ask personal questions, don’t flirt with me. You’re NOT giving some old lady a thrill by doing so … you’re being creepy.